How to Put Everything into Perspective: A blog around getting control of your life and increasing your emotional intelligence

Introduction

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand one's emotion i.e. how you perceive, manage & regulate your emotions. In other words it gives a clear picture on emotions & feelings of self. It requires certain degree of awareness one has. It makes us understand the emotions & feelings of other people as well. 

Hence, emotional intelligence is the foundation to build a healthy & long-lasting relationship with self & with others as well. It solidifies our perception & understanding & helps to reflect on our emotions & feelings efficiently. Thus, it also consist of self-control and ability to manage tough situation with ease & calmly by having positive attitude towards self & life.

Key element of emotional intelligence

1) Self-awareness 

Awareness of own emotions & thoughts and their surrounding environment and to be mindfully responsive.

2) Self-regulation

Regulating self by practicing a positive habits i.e. it teaches us the art of self-control. He/she knows where there trigger point is they regulate it by cultivating a good practice to tackle. 

3) Empathy

Understanding other people's emotion and make them feel heard. 

4) Social skills

Relation with self & with others i.e. interpersonal & intrapersonal relationships.

5) Motivation

Self-motivated people are often driven by their inner goals rather than external factors.

Benefits of emotional intelligence

1) People with high emotional intelligence have a positive & proactive attitude towards life.

2) Emotional intelligence makes a person humble & empathetic towards other people.

3) Helps to build a strong & healthy relationship with others.

4) Helps to communicate effectively as they are aware of their situation in & out.

5) Helps to be emotionally independent.

6) Helps to build or enhancing the quality an individual actually/already possess.

7) Helps to make them more responsible & accountable individual.

8) Helps them to cultivate a positive mindset.

9) They know where & how to express their emotions or feelings effectively.

10) Makes them a great empathetic listener.

11) Makes them growth & solution oriented individual.

12) Helps in effective decision making.

How to develop emotional intelligence

1) Observe

Observe how aware are you.

Observe how you are responding to situations.

Observe how other people are responding to you.

Observe your surrounding environment.

2) Communication 

See how others are communicating or expressing themselves. Notice their style of communication.

3) Empathy

To develop empathy in you is to volunteer for a particular organization which will broaden your perception & understanding towards humanity & relationships. Learn to be a mindful listener.

First listen mindfully, understand and than try to respond gracefully. Be aware of other people's emotions. Observe carefully.

4) Accountability

Take responsibility of your action, emotions and see how it is affecting you and your surrounding people.

5) Build social skill

Try to connect with family and friends talk to them & try to understand what they are saying i.e. Intend to understand people.

6) Evaluate

Reflect on your thoughts, actions & emotions. Notice few things while reflecting:

-How you responded in a particular/unknown situation.

-How you communicated in a particular/unknown situation.

-How your words affected to other people in that particular/unknown situation.

-What action you have taken in a given or in unknown situation.

This are some ways to develop or say increase emotional intelligence. There are more ways i have listed out few which is more useful in day-to-day life.

Qualities of highly emotional intelligent people

1) They are an optimistic individual.

2) They are flexible thinkers & adaptive in nature.

3) They are excellent in self-management i.e. they know how to recognize & regulate their own emotions & thoughts.

4) They are excellent in handling and understanding other people's emotions.

5) They know how to balance personal & professional life.

6) They are curious & have a great degree of self-awareness.

7) They gracefully accept the changes in life.

8) They are more mindful of environment around them & within.

9) They reflect on their thought & ideas effectively & likes to brainstorm their idea to get broader perspective towards a particular idea.

10) They know what are their needs, belief & where the change is required.

11) They regularly work on their skills to improve their quality of life & broaden their perspective.

12) They take responsibility seriously.

13) They practice mindful listening.

14) They don't get distracted easily.

15) They know how to handle & manage other people's emotions.

How to implement this qualities in daily routine

1) Listen to understand

When you are communicating with your family, friends or colleague listen to them empathetically & try to understand their point.

2) Mindful communication

When you understood their point try to communicate in a calm & gentle way & be aware of words you say or speak to others. Notice the environment around you and respond according to it.

3) Positive attitude

Whenever you are in trouble or facing difficulties in life be aware of your thought & attitude towards that situation i.e. it shows how is your attitude towards life. Learn to forgive & be at peace. 

4) Increase awareness

You can practice by paying attention to your breathe than slowly start observing around you like sounds, people or notice consciously whats happening around you. By this practice you will be aware of your own thoughts & emotions as well.

5) Acceptance

Emotional intelligence is all about accepting life as it is whether it is good or bad accept it & move forward by keeping in mind your perspective & attitude towards life. 

6) Accountable

Instead of blaming others evaluate yourself and take full responsibility of your life in whatever task you do whether it is personal or professional life.

You cannot control the external factors as it is uncertain but you can control your inner world by taking control of it.

Conclusion: The key takeaways from this blog

There is a famous quote "be the change you want to see in this world." it all starts with you. Hence, emotional intelligence can be cultivated in any individual to be the best version of you. No matter what your age or gender is. 

This blog gives you insight how you can broaden your perspective & put it into practice practically. Hence, it teaches us how you can make a long lasting relationships in a calm & gentle way. 

Hence, the important lesson from this blog is to manage yourself efficiently whether it is your emotions or thought and make us grounded in understanding other people's view effectively. Secondly, the most important point of this blog is to be responsible for everything that happen to us. It is a lifetime process so keep learning & sharing.